How to Handle Blue Feelings After the Wedding

How to Handle Blue Feelings After the Wedding

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Feeling of sadness after the wedding can be a common occurrance for many brides. Understanding that these emotions are normal can help brides process these feelings.

What is a rarely discussed issue that afflicts many brides right after the wedding? The post-wedding blues. These blues can occur the day after or a few weeks after the wedding. If the post-wedding blues have hit you, don’t worry. It’s perfectly normal.

And it makes sense, if you think about it. Many brides spend months, sometimes years, planning for their wedding. And, it’s one of the few times in life that everything is all about you. (That is, unless the bride in question is a self-centered narcissist who expects everything to revolve around her most of the time already, which is a totally different issue.) So when the beautiful day has come and gone, it’s not uncommon for a bride to find herself thinking, “What now?”

With no wedding tasks at hand, a bride can suddenly find herself with lots of time to kill and no big event to look forward to. However, it’s important to keep in mind you have just married your best friend and the love of your life. So it’s essential to move your focus gradually from “the big day” to building a new life together. If you find yourself feeling lost and a little out of sorts soon after your wedding, chances are you are suffering from a bout of post-wedding depression. Keep these things in mind when dealing with these unexpected emotions.
Talk to Your Partner

You may be feeling blue or even a sense of loss after the wedding. This can be partly due to the fact a big, life-changing event has just occurred, albeit a positive one. After all, you have just left your single life behind. And even though you are confident that you married your soul mate, it’s perfectly okay to mourn the loss of your former life and feel a little sadness. Marriage is a big transition. Talk to you spouse about these feelings. More than likely, they are feeling similar emotions.
Be Social

The engagement is a time when lots of other things, including family and friends, get put on the back burner as couples frantically try to get everything done for their big event. Plan some outings with those that have been neglected. Book dates with friends. Host a cookout or a party. But don’t overdo it. Don’t jump from one harried, event-filled phase of your life, right into another. Plan to spend time with loved ones, but make sure you take time for yourselves, which leads right into the next point…
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Many brides are now no longer choose the date of marriage according to the calculation of "good day" as it is believed the parents. They believe that all days are good days. Date of current marriage is generally determined by the availability of building a marriage. Another date which is the choice of dates "sacred" as July 7, 2007, August 8, 2008, or this year, 9 September 2009. Reasons for selecting these dates vary. There are simply considered "beautiful date", easy to remember (as a combination of numbers to 09-09-09), or believes that a combination of numbers is a number "hockey".

But if you intend to choose the dates with a combination of "pretty" like that, you'd better think again carefully. Based on the experience in 2007, which occurred booming wedding on July 7, much less favorable experiences endured by the bride just as well as his guests.

1. Difficult to find the location of the marriage. So many couples who preyed on those making marriage buildings are rented well in advance. Many brides are willing to pay more expensive than normal rates, but did not get it. Finally obtained only disappointment, because I had to choose another date.

2. The difficulty for building a marriage is also followed by difficulty finding another vendor support that can serve on that date, such as catering, make up artist, seamstress kebaya, photographer, decorations, wedding cars, printing for invitations, and so forth. As a result, you have to find a replacement vendor, which of course requires extra attention.

3. In addition to building a marriage, the religious institutions that will marry you too will be difficult to provide services if the amount of the prospective bride too much. Get ready just rejected if you do not make reservations for a few months earlier.

4. Apparently, many brides who had the same thought with you: select a date beautiful. Finally, the date is no longer exclusive, since you are not the only one who got married on that date.

5. Because of increased orders, wedding service providers also generally raise prices or rates. Some units that tend to raise prices for instance, florist, seamstress or designer, printer, photographer, car rentals, and so forth.

6. You'll be more excited because it tailors kebaya or printing your order printed invitations flooded, so that your order was neglected. It is precisely because you do not intervene directly deal with the invitation, for example, you can only wait for news, and this is no fun.

7. Your guests are also flooded with invitations on the same day. Although the event was held at different hours, visitors still have to choose which invitation to attend. Imagine if you received seven invitations in one day, with a location far from each other. Attending three invitations would be exhausting enough.

8. Stuck! As a guest, you will be constrained stress across the streets of Jakarta to attend the invitation here and there. Do not forget also the vendor that serves your needs, such as making young coconut leaf or catering. Often the courier must deliver in several places, and go get jammed. Again and again you will be alarmed orders came too late.

9. Because the points of the 7th and 8th above, you are also worried that not many guests who can attend your event.

Well, now try to compare things on top with the benefits you get by selecting the date of "sacred". At most you will only save the dates pretty easy to remember by yourself. The rest, only hassle you get.

Planning a Cheap Wedding? Here are 3 Ways You Can Do it Right

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Planning a Cheap Wedding? Here are 3 Ways You Can Do it Right

Planning a cheap wedding also means minimizing the necessary wedding expenses. From my wedding planning experience, it is inevitable to spend on the rental of venue, wedding banquet, wines and so on.

It is not easy to list down what are the things you can save on and it can be a pain in the neck and a storm to test the will of the wedding couples before their big day comes. We will still do our best to plan a really affordable wedding but only to realise that we still exceed our wedding budget at the end of the day.

A moment ago, a friend of mine contacted me asking for advice for his wedding dinner location and after talking to him, I think I have helped him save more than S$500. It is definitely a good start.

In Singapore, we Chinese follow the Chinese custom and hold wedding banquet in a hotel or restaurant at night on the wedding day.

My friend Andrew has found a good deal for a hotel offering S$798 (nett price) per table (a table can seat 10 guests)

The dinner package also offers a complementary bottle of wine per table and 2 hotel rooms for the wedding couple.

From my experience, we do our best to make the necessary expenses free of charge so that we spend as little as we can so we can spend more for our honeymoon. LOL :p

So here is what you can do if you are still negotiating for a good deal for your dinner package.

1. Ask for a complimentary bottle of wine for every table. It can literally cut down hundreds of dollars off your wedding expenses.

2. Ask for a complimentary room for your helpers so they can spend the night in the hotel. It is also a way of saying "thank you" to your helpers.

3. Most hotels offer parking coupons for your guests. Normally hotels offer free parking coupons for 10 to 15% of all your guests. You can ask for another 10 to 15% more.

At the end of the day, you have to ensure your hotel business manager write whatever you have discussed in black and white so that you can have a copy of the contract too.

Staff turnover in hotels is possible and you may end up having a new business manager at the end of the day without you knowing and you may find yourself requiring to negotiate for all the deals all over again.